1. [ T - F - U ] I wish my wife would take more time to be with me
2. [ T - F - U ] My wife and I enjoy many similar kinds of social
activities
3. [ T - F - U ] When we're together, there's always something to
talk about
4. [ T - F - U ] We do not seem to have fun together
5. [ T - F - U ] I feel pressured to participate in activities my
wife enjoys
6. [ T - F - U ] Quite often I'd rather be away from home or alone,
than spend time with my wife
7. [ T - F - U ] I am happy with the amount of TV we watch
8. [ T - F - U ] My wife has interests and hobbies I enjoy
9. [ T - F - U ] Holidays and vacations are stressful for us
10. [ T - F - U ] We enjoy going to church together
"In order to improve our Companionship, the one effort that I personally am willing to make is:
_____________________________________________."
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II. COMMUNICATION
11. [ T - F - U ] It is easy for me to express my feelings to my wife
12. [ T - F - U ] When we're having a problem, my wife becomes silent
13. [ T - F - U ] At times I'm afraid to request what I want
14. [ T - F - U ] I wish my wife would be more willing to share her
feelings
15. [ T - F - U ] I'm satisfied with how we talk with each other
16. [ T - F - U ] I seldom share critical feelings because my wife
will get angry
17. [ T - F - U ] My wife is a good listener
18. [ T - F - U ] My wife usually understands how I feel
19. [ T - F - U ] Sometimes my wife makes comments which put me down
20. [ T - F - U ] I have no difficulty believing what my wife tells
me
"In order to improve Communication with my wife, the one change that I personally am willing to make is:
_____________________________________________."
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III. COMMITMENT
21. [ T - F - U ] I fear that if I say something wrong my wife will
leave me
22. [ T - F - U ] Even during arguments I know I will never leave my
wife
23. [ T - F - U ] Promises my wife makes are seldom broken
24. [ T - F - U ] I never have to wonder if my wife has cheated on me
25. [ T - F - U ] My wife has assured me that she will never leave me
26. [ T - F - U ] The vows we made seem to be less important now
27. [ T - F - U ] I don't think my wife is happy with our
relationship
28. [ T - F - U ] Our commitment to each other is strengthened by our
faith in God
29. [ T - F - U ] People are telling me that I should give up on this
marriage
30. [ T - F - U ] Our marriage will survive only if my wife has her
needs met
"In order to demonstrate my Commitment to my wife, the one change that I personally am willing to make is:
_____________________________________________."
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IV. COMBAT
31. [ T - F - U To end an argument, I usually give in
32. [ T - F - U ] When discussing problems, I feel that my wife
understands me
33. [ T - F - U ] I am tired of trying to keep the peace in our
marriage
34. [ T - F - U ] Our differences are often resolved
35. [ T - F - U ] I usually feel the problem is all my fault
36. [ T - F - U ] We've agreed on the best way to resolve conflicts
37. [ T - F - U ] During arguments my wife is careful not to use
hurtful names
38. [ T - F - U ] At times I am so angry that I'm afraid I will hurt
my wife
39. [ T - F - U ] My wife doesn't take our disagreements seriously
40. [ T - F - U ] We often pray together when there are difficulties
"In order to better manage conflict with my husband, the one change that I personally am willing to make is:
_____________________________________________."
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V. COMPASSION
41. [ T - F - U ] I have no doubt that my wife cares for me deeply
42. [ T - F - U ] When with other people, my wife says things which embarrass me
43. [ T - F - U ] Sometimes I feel that my wife is domineering
44. [ T - F - U ] My wife compliments me from time to time
45. [ T - F - U ] Before we married, my wife seemed more considerate
46. [ T - F - U ] My wife finds fault with me a lot
47. [ T - F - U ] Thankfully, my wife seems more concerned for me
than for her friends and family
48. [ T - F - U ] If my wife cared for me, she would get rid of bad
habits such as smoking or drinking
49. [ T - F - U ] My wife doesn't only speak of loving me, it shows
in deeds
50. [ T - F - U ] We have learned how to forgive one another
"In order to demonstrate more Compassion for my wife, the one change that I personally am willing to make is:
__________________________________________."
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